Opening Up: How to Talk to Your Doctor About Anxiety and Stress

For many seniors, talking about mental health can feel uncomfortable. If you grew up in a time when folks were expected to “tough it out” and keep their struggles to themselves, it might seem unusual or even unnecessary to bring up things like anxiety, stress, or worry with a doctor. But times have changed, and taking care of your mental health is just as important as managing your blood pressure or arthritis.

If you have been feeling overwhelmed, nervous, restless, or just not quite like yourself, it is worth talking to your doctor. You do not need to have all the right words or a perfect explanation. You just need to start the conversation.

Here are a few simple tips to help you take that first step:

1. Be Honest, Even If It Feels Awkward
It is okay to say, “Lately I’ve been feeling more anxious than usual,” or “I’ve been under a lot of stress and it’s wearing on me.” Your doctor cannot help you if they do not know what you are going through.

2. Write It Down Beforehand
If you are nervous about forgetting what to say, jot down a few notes before your appointment. You might list symptoms like trouble sleeping, feeling irritable, or losing interest in things you once enjoyed.

3. Know That You Are Not Alone
Anxiety and stress are very common, even among older adults. You are not the only one, and there is no shame in asking for help.

4. Ask About Treatment Options
Medication is not the only answer. Your doctor might suggest counseling, lifestyle changes, support groups, or gentle exercises like walking or tai chi to help manage your stress.

5. Bring a Trusted Friend or Family Member
If you are feeling uneasy, bring someone along who can help you stay calm and remember what the doctor says.

Talking about mental health does not mean you are weak. It means you are strong enough to take care of yourself. The more we speak up, the more we break down the old walls of stigma and open the door to feeling better.